I've had many parenting "ideals" in my short ( almost 10 years, yikes! ) as a parent. When I was still the mother of only two small ( as in toddler and infant ) boys I heard/read/really don't rember where..... what I thought was excellent parenting advice. Do not be the referee for you children. Teach them to work things out on their own. Teach them to express their feelings, talk things out. I thought this was such a great plan, especially with little boys. I had visions of young men calmly expressing their feelings to one another while I proudly observed from afar.
This is what this concept actually looks like in my house right now. As in this summer. As displayed most recently by a certain four year old, not mentioning any names...
"Mommmmm, Dawson did such and such to me"
" I don't need to know about this, just tell your brother how that makes you feel. "
" Dawson, when you do such and such to me...
It makes me feel like I want to punch your head off. "
Well, there you have it. I think we have a little more work to do.
5 comments:
no, it's perfect. he's verbalizing it instead of doing it. i've read an example just like this in "siblings without rivalry", have you read it? i think you'd like it. ;) --april
hahahahahahaha HILARIOUS!!!!
haha! this made me laugh out loud. i then had to read it out loud to paul and we both laughed out loud! i never dreamed training our little ones could be so exhausting at times! but what tremendous blessings they are! it always amazes me how much they teach us too! and i agree with april. how awesome that he COULD verbalize it! great post! thanks for the much needed laugh!
too funny, Betsy! Sounds JUST LIKE my three crazy boys!!! (:
I can so relate to that! Don't you wonder how the girls will jump into that mix when they are old enough to argue? ;)
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